Divorced Dads

divorced dads
Being a divorced father is rough. We do not have the loving support of our partner anymore, if you do remarry you face a whole load of other problems, and your children which are so precious to you are going through a massive readjustment which can be very damaging to their view of relationships.

As a man we are often demonised as bad fathers once we are divorced but any man will tell you that is not the case for the majority of men who strive to be a great dad. Even so, it can be hard to deal with your own emotional turmoil while being the father you want to be.

Here are some quick tips you will need to know and follow:

  • Never Use Them As Pawns - Emotional mind games might be happening during and after a divorce between you and your ex-wife, but no matter how often she uses your children against you, NEVER sink to that level and try to manipulate them to hurt your ex or make you feel better somehow ... NEVER!
  • Do Not Argue In Front of Them - Do not get into a slanging match with your ex in front of your children. While you may not be together, seeing their mother and father going at it hammer and tongs in an argument is damaging to their self esteem. It can lead to many dangerous mental disorders.
  • Try to Find a Solution - When you do have a disagreement with your ex about your children, or when they are around make sure to find some sort of solution to the conflict. It can be to just agree to disagree, but children need to know their parents have sorted things out. This helps them feel more at ease even if things are not totally alright.
  • Put Them First - While I advocate taking time to find yourself, who you really want to be after a divorce - remember that your children still come first. They are innocent in this debacle and must have your full support. All energy you put in now to be a good father will pay off with them being more respectful to you in the future, and helping them to be healthier and happier despite the divorce.